When Amy and Aaron have their first fight, at the awards event. Amy’s first reaction was “We’re fighting, I’m leaving, because this is obviously ending right now”. This could be a self defense mechanism. ‘Ohhh this has the potential to hurt me. I don’t want to be hurt. I will leave before you have a chance to hurt me’. Amy even says to Aaron “What’s wrong with you? Why do you even like me? I’m not good enough to be in a relationship with you”. When our self-esteem and our self-worth are really low, we cannot see what the other person sees in us. We see all of our ‘supposed’ flaws as bright as day. And we cannot possibly comprehend why someone would want to be with us.
When Aaron proposes that they not see each other for two days (so he can rest up for the big surgery), Amy takes that as he is breaking up with her. Her immediate response is “I know that we’re done”. And she does the classic, ‘I’m going to really hurt you to protect myself’ play. She does this by mentioning that his article is being pulled from the magazine, because her boss thought that he was too boring.
When Amy catches up with her married pregnant sister, she comes to the realisation that her previous patterns are no longer working for her. And she tells her sister “I act, like, everything that you do is wrong. But it’s because I don’t think that I can have what you have. I’m just broken”. Which is an important realisation. There are certain points in our lives where we just have to say, ‘hey, this is no longer working for me. I need to make a change, as doing the same thing over and over again isn’t making me happy’.